that's about him

it's not easy to keep something alive when most of time you are apart, it's getting difficult when one person is not really knowing what's going on. I am wondering whether that's the choice I made, yes, I guess, couple of months ago I knew I wanted this, no matter how hard it will be, I know I still want this, no matter how hard it will be.

it will be tough for both, especially for me, who has no patience at all. but the love from your heart can not be denied, I am holding on to it. there are days that you are jealous about others, days that you have tears sleeping at night, and days you feel extremely lonely, is that all worthy it? I would say, yeah, because that's someone I truly love!

Malayisa- I am Eurasian, oh, You are so pathetic!

Dear Fake Eurasian in Malaysia:

I hope you don't mind checking the definition of Eurasian in the dictionary before you call yourself Eurasian, so you can feel that you have something to do with Europe, then you can find your self-esteem.

Eurasian is defined as "describes a person with one European parent and one Asian parent". so if you are the case that your grandparents, or grand-grand parents having something to do with Europe, you are NOT a Eurasian, get it? simple is that!

I know you desperately want to have something to do with European people. but sorry, man! if your parents are Malaysian, you are Malaysian, Malaysia is part of Asia, I say it again, and you can check the map again, in case I am wrong... so you are Asian!!! Face it! you are bloody so fake and so pathetic to call yourself Eurasian! seriously, grow up!

China- The parents never give up

my graduation is approaching, friends studying in China are almost the same. A friend's mum, whose name should be remain unknown, called my dad to ask: ahh... is your daughter finishing her degree yet? where is she going to work ah? my daughter is working in Deloitte Shang Hai...

Chinese parents just can never give up comparing their kids, it seemed how successful their kids are is the same as how successful they are. when you are in school, they compare your school results, therefore, most of Chinese kids going to University doing Accounting, medicine, law... most of time it's not because we like it, it's because our parents can go out to compare us with others.

"my daughter is a lawyer" sounds better than "my daughter is drawing pictures", at least for Chinese people, regardless whether what the children are really interested in.

when you finish school, they compare your final education level; once you start working, they compare where you work, how much you make; you get married, they compare your spouse rich or not, pretty or not; then you have your own child, the compare cycle starting again!

personally i really pity that mum, she is so bored that she has to compare his own child with others to make herself feel better. and that's the sad part.

Millions and millions Chinese parents feel ashamed if their kids not having a good school results, but they just can't understand not every child is academic good, many of them are talent in other ways. Children are God's blessing, not some investment you made that you wish it's free risk and high return. (it comes more particularly true to those having a daughter)

I kept my school results No.1 or No.2 for three years in Middle school, but i never heard my parents said: I am proud of you. I did a simple presentation in college where my Irish friend called me from a different country to tell me he is very very very proud of me.

that's the difference, and that's the sad part.

China- Marry the family

When two Chinese people get married, it's not about two individual's marriage, it's about two family. Especially from the daughter's family, it's about money. before the engagement, the rings, the jewelery, and the dowry. let me explain a bit here why this is existed here.

Chinese family think: I only have one daughter, married daughter is like the water poured out, it will belong to your family, and have your family's next generation, i will have nothing after i spend so many years raise her up. so the dowry is more likely a compensation.

so if you are just looking at the terms, for example, my cousin's engagement dowry is 30000RMB, it's just engagement, roughly about 4498 USD. Hmm... by looking at it, what's the difference with selling your daughter?

once the two people married, they call each other's parents "dad and mum", it must be so difficult to call someone you hardly know dad and mum, too bad, you have to, that's the Chinese way. and from now on, your spouse family is your family too. whether you like it or not, that's it!

it went worse when you have a kid, China's one child policy, so both your parents and your spouse parents want to take care of your kid. 4 grandparents are fighting for one grandchild. Chinse grandparents love involving in your life, remember, we are a family now.

later when the grandparents are getting old, here comes this theory: i help you raise your child, it's your obligation to take care of me now, I am old.

so it's common to see all the middle aged married Chinese couple are busy like headless chicken, working, taking kid to school, going to hospital to visit their parents or parents in laws. if you are in China, you can't complain about it, they are your family, it's your obligation.

So... Good luck!

Malayisa- The holiday

well, in Malaysia there are plenty reasons to have holiday. Malay new year, Chinese new year, and Indian new year, Christmas, and plus several Kings' birthday in different states... Sometimes you don't even know why today is public holiday. oh, Enjoy it, you can't have them in other countries.